Winter - planning, researching. It can be depressing and frustrating. Learning as much as you can about success in that specific area of life. It can tend to be lonely and not much fun. Focus on your outcome.
Spring - planting, experimenting, making mistakes. Trial and error. Trying out different paths. Getting a general sense of which direction is for you. Can also be costly and frustrating, but necessary to find that thing for you. Most people quit here because they view trials as failure. Experimentation is necessary.
Summer - you've found that thing. You are building your team. Putting in the hours. Gaining even more specialized knowledge. This is where the hard work really happens.
Fall - you reap the rewards. You harvest what you've been planting. You're profitable. Business has sustainable growth. Effort is still required, but not nearly as much and your results are predictable.
Which season are you in?
I'm not the biggest fan of TV, but I do like "Scandal" and "How to get Away With Murder" Although it is fiction and unreasonable and unrealistic in many ways, there is one lesson that I believe can be universally gleaned. Whether you are Olivia Pope or Annalise Keating, no matter how good you think you are, you are virtually powerless without your team and your network.
Both women may get all the credit, but without their team, they would have very little success. Without the help of their network, they would not have climbed the later, solved the case, stopped the tragedy, saved the world. Even Rick Grimes from "Walking Dead" would have long been zombified if it were not for Michone, Glen, Carol and the rest of the gang. None of us, are stronger than all of us.
I know too many people that want to do it all alone and get no where fast, quit, then say it's impossible.
Who's on your team?
Ikigai (生き甲斐]) is a Japanese concept meaning "a reason for being". Everyone, according to the Japanese, has an ikigai. Finding it requires a deep and often lengthy search of self.
Success is not a destination. It's a journey. The longer you travel the road of success, the more you have to risk, the more potential failure you have to face, the more rejection you must experience. Even Steve Jobs got rejected out of his own company!
Sugar coating may taste good on candy, but sugar coating your life, darkens your eternal flame. See, when you sugar coat the challenges of your life to yourself, you remove the pain of your circumstances, which decreases your drive to want to UPGRADE and INCREASE to your deserved nobility. It's the acknowledgement of the real and raw pain of your current circumstances that will jolt you to the breaking point of doing WHATEVER IT TAKES to UPGRADE and INCREASE NOW!
Your deepest pain and deepest wounds are your most powerful ally to bring about obtaining your ceptar and claiming your Throne. Stay close to them. They are your jet fuel to breakthrough the atmosphere and reach the stars.
Too many people use softening language to make the right now feel better. No. If the right now is a nightmare, call it a nightmare.
Is your life just ok, or is it freaking miserable. It's easy to call the Miserable just ok, when everyone around you is miserable too. You gotta get around where it's better to make the flame rise.
Keep your focus on your compelling future and what needs to be done to get there, and the pain of the "right now nightmare" turns into fuel to get you to that mountaintop.
"I went to sleep hungry last night."
"I work 60 hours a week and barely surviving."
"All I'm gonna leave my kids is debt if I don't do something about it."
"Everyone I've ever loved has abandoned me."
When you take your rawest, deepest, gut wrenching, emotional and spiritual pain and use it as fuel to get to your compelling future, that's called UNSTOPPABLE. No more sugar coating.